For a long time the photograph to the right has been one of my signature shots.  It was taken in 2007 by me using a timed flash.  It’s still the shot for my Wikipedia user page.

I took it during a shoot with Governor Jim McGreevey that remains a sentimental favorite of mine.    His was one of my best portraits for Wikipedia.  Jim now attends the General Theological Seminary and alsoconducts a former prisoner ministry in Harlem.

But that photo of me above was 2007, and since it’s 2010 I started to think it was a lie.  When does a photograph become dated enough to become deceitful?  It’s a real question in the Internet age.

I’ve often heard people reason that they don’t update photographs swearing that they look exactly as they did four years ago.  But does anyone ever?  Regardless, if one looks the same there should be no trouble going through the routine motion of uploading a recent shot to quell any doubt.

What’s the rule for when you should change your profile shot?

If it’s a favorite photo, you should update it once the year is +2; so for the 2006 shot above, I should have changed it in 2008.  That’s the rule. Anyone who does less is shady (I have many, many recent shots uploaded so that’s not an indictment on me).

So since you have to update your profile shot, try to make it special.  It’s like buying a new coat: put thought into what will be one of you most highly visible symbols.  For me, there was no better time  to do my overdue signature shot than this trip last weekend to Washington DC.

My sisters and I have often talked about and tried to do a vacation together just the three of us, but they both have multiple children and  important careers, so time and other considerations often frustrated our attempts.

It was on Wednesday that Tracy wrote Cheryl and I that she was suddenly going to DC for a conference, and could we possibly make it down that weekend.  Cheryl and I were so enthused at the chance, that we both within hours had arranged to get Friday off and take the train down.  It spun all our heads.

It was the sort of weekend that reminds you of why family is so wonderful.  We took a leisurely pace, focusing on dining, shopping and seeing two things: the Lincoln Memorial and Washington Monument.  Nothing else.

It was fantastic, and we reaffirmed that our love extends beyond family ties and into friendship.  It is difficult to articulate how blessed I feel to have Tracy and Cheryl.

Below is the new shot for the “About David Shankbone” page.  It was taken during a particularly special family vacation by my sister Tracy, and I’m as happy as can be:

Jean Coaxum, one of the staff members of Exodus Transitional Community, stands outside the Church of Living Hope in East Harlem with Jim McGreevey.

Former New Jersey Governor Jim McGreevey, who riveted the nation when he came out as a gay American in 2004, is now the symbol of fallen Governors.  When Eliot Spitzer stepped down from the New York governorship in the midst of his own sex scandal, Spitzer and his wife were even charged with copying the McGreeveys’ fashion (it is uncanny).

The comparisons between Spitzer and McGreevey were apt, since they were both active Democratic politicians in neighboring states around the same time, both were frequently mentioned as strong Presidential contenders, and both of their sex scandals were seen as hubris personified.

With South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford, whose Argentinian affair is not only hubris but also hypocrisy personified, McGreevey emerged again to offer advice that he should proceed with humility.

“I’m filled with a sense of pain and anguish for him and for his family,” McGreevey said in an interview. “I think it was a very human moment.”

Sanford is only one in a recent list of “Love Govs” who have admitted to affairs.  They include the aforementioned McGreevey and Spitzer; Jim Gibbons of Nevada; and David Paterson of New York.

I have known Jim McGreevey since 2007, when I photographed him as part of my public art project that Wikipedia hosts.  At the time I was attending Saint Bartholomew’s in Manhattan on one of my many failed quests to find spirituality.  St. Bart’s also happened to be where McGreevey, his partner Mark O’Donnell and his daughter Jacqueline attended service.  One day I approached him to ask if I could do his portrait.  He still possessed the boyish good looks and charm that were evident even at the height of his scandal.

However, he possessed more than that: he also displayed humility and an inner peace.  He is in a healthy, happy relationship with Mark as he studies to become an Episcopal priest.  He is giving back to others who have made mistakes, often because they were caught up in the circumstances of their lives.

Jim McGreevey and black Jesus at the Church of Living Hope in East Harlem. Click on the image to see more.

Gay people mostly forgave McGreevey for his affair when it came to light five years ago.  We are well aware of the many ludicrous situations that occur because men, particularly in McGreevey’s generation, have been forced to live their lives in the closet.  That he is living such an honorable and giving life freed from the shame of the closet is testament to the real Jim McGreevey.

McGreevey volunteers at Exodus MinistriesTransitional Community at the Church of Living Hope in East Harlem, New  York, which tries to help newly-released prisoners learn life skills and handle the significant challenges that ex-convicts face.   It’s not just job-hunting.  One of the photographs below shows Jim helping one young man figure out how to set up a free e-mail account on Yahoo.  With limited access to computers, the guy had no idea how to do this.  This is not atypical.  We take this kind of knowledge for granted, assuming everyone knows how to set up free e-mail.  They don’t.

The gifts that McGreevey brings to these formerly-incarcerated men and women are vast.  He still retains many of the contacts and friendships in government that he had when he was Governor, which has been a Godsend to a program that needs state assistance to function.   McGreevey knows  how the system works; he knows resources that are available to these people; and he is gifted with an ability to teach and reach them.

Many of these men and women don’t know who McGreevey is; they were not exactly following politics before their imprisonment.  Nevertheless, it was obvious that they sensed in Jim that he knows tremendous mistakes, and he knows how to overcome them.

Of course, the tabloids, the Mark Sanfords and the Larry Craigs of the world will probably never forgive him.  But who cares.  Certainly not the men in these photos below, who see the same McGreevey that I see, and not the caricature who exists in the pages of the press.

UPDATE:  The correct name is Exodus Transitional Community.  There is a Dallas-based group named Exodus Ministries that does prisoner rehabilitation as well (You may remember Supreme Court nominee Harriet Miers served on the Dallas group’s board, which was mistakenly thought to be the ex-gay group Exodus International).  I was told they are affiliated with Dallas, but then later told that they are not.

Alvin Williams, one of Exodus’ intake counselors, talks to newly-released men about readjusting to life outside of prison, and the services that Exodus has to offer them.

McGreevey talks to the young men about life skills and how to re-engage society.

McGreevey and an Exodus counselor help a young man set up a free e-mail account.  Many of these people have challenges, such as lack of access to computers, that many of us can not fathom.

McGreevey stands in front of James de la Vega’s East Harlem mural of legendary Nuyorican poet Pedro Pietri.

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