I’m living with a ghost in New Jersey
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I’m not insane. I’m a normal person, just like you. Ok, so maybe I’m not normal. Me and my hyperbole. But still. I’m sane. I’m sane, and I have a ghost living in my house.
I’m not one to easily believe in such things, but sometimes some powerful truth reaches out and grabs you no matter how practical a person you are. During my divorce, I moved into this house in 2006 with my son who was then under three years old. Shortly after I got a dog. After a while, we added some fish. Now? We’ve added Nancy the ghost.
Not long after I moved in, I heard some odd noises in the house, and they scared the bejeebers out of me. I cannot recall the full context, but I believe I heard someone other than my son calling “Mommy”. It was so odd, and so scary, that I blocked out the specifics. Being a person of relatively sound mind, I chalked it up to being in a new house under very new circumstances. I talked myself into believing I was just on edge, which was understandable under the circumstances. It was an unfamiliar old house, I was on my own with a young child for the first time, and I was going through a divorce. Clearly, a life in transition.
There had been rumors about ghosts living in this house from before I moved in, but I wasn’t sure I could sign onto that. I began to question my reticence when a neighbor came in to let my dog out while I was at work, and her daughter saw an old woman at the top of the stairs. The woman was gone by the time the child’s mother got to the landing to look.
Then one night about a year after I moved in, my boyfriend at the time, Andrew, and I were in bed. I heard an erie, high pitched, girlish voice say “MOMMY” from the room adjoining my bedroom. Then I heard it again. It was long and drawn out, like: ”MOOOOMMMMY”. It made the hairs on the back of my neck stand at full attention.
The room where it came from is not near my son’s room, and the voice was not my son’s. I turned quickly to look at Andrew, and he nodded and said, “I heard it too”. My first thought was that it had to be my son, “how could it not be my son?” I thought as my mind raced for an explanation. I got up out of bed to investigate.
Barefoot, I walked across the wide wood planks of my second floor landing to my son’s room, where the door was ajar as always. He was fast asleep. It wasn’t him. If he had spoken from his bed, the voice would have come from the other wall of my bedroom. The high pitched, almost creepy voice came from inside the adjoining room of the master bedroom.
Confused, I turned from my son’s room to walk back and was then facing the staircase down to the first level. I then saw that the baby gate was not up. Since I’d moved in I’d been putting a baby gate at the top at night, just in case my son got up in the middle of the night. I didn’t want him to accidentally fall down the stairs in a sleepy moment. I fixed the gate, and wondered if that had been the reason for the disturbance.
I broke up with Andrew quite a while ago, and I’ve been with Dan now for over a year. I’d warned Dan about this odd stuff in my house. He was very kind to not call me the cookoo bird that I know he thought I was when I told him. The ghost then saw to it that he knew I was not nuts, at least not about this.
A few weeks ago we were both in bed sleeping when Dan heard “MOOOOOOMMMMY”. He says it woke him. He was groggy, so he thought maybe it was my son, or maybe he had dreamed it. Just when he was about to go back to sleep, he heard it again, loud and clear. This time, he was certain it was not my son. I never heard it, because I was fast asleep.
I mentioned this to my neighbor, who is apparently a medium and spiritual guide. She offered to come over and see what she could pick up. From her visit, we learned that this ghost dislikes my dining room. There was a disturbance whenever she walked into the dining room. I spend a lot of time in the dining room on the computer writing and facebooking, and sometimes working. Tina looked at me and said “What do you do in here? She hates it here”. Then Tina moved to the kitchen. She said the kitchen was a place the ghost liked. She liked the fish. She wanted me to know the white fish was not named Cindy (my son named our boy beta fish Cindy. The ghost, rightfully so, thought this was absurd). She also wanted me to know that she liked our playroom, but that she wished she could have a toy of her own. ”All the toys are boy toys”, she said.
Tina says that this ghost is a young girl of about 10. She likes to be called Nancy, although we suspect this is not her real name. She did not come with the house. She was drawn to the house because of us. We were already here when she arrived. Tina communicated with the ghost a bit, who asked if she could please show me when she was around more often. She also told us that my son, who is now 6, has no idea she’s here, and that she’d never scare him. She wouldn’t promise, however, that he’d never see her, which was a bit disturbing.
Nancy did not want to tell us who she belonged to. Initially she admitted that she came from someone Tina and I “both knew”. Questions to figure out the identity were met with some anxiety. The chain tina carries to sense these spirits began to twirl quickly. Time to switch subjects.
Tina explained that Nancy was saying she liked our house because there was so much here that she never got to have. She felt like she never got to have a mom, and she never got to have all those toys. She liked being here, because she felt on some level, that I was like her mom.
Tina said that Nancy wanted me to know that she thought if I’d paid better attention, I’d have noticed her more often. She told Tina that if I would just listen, then I’d know she was there. Then, she told Tina to tell me that she only wakes us for a purpose. She then explained, through Tina, that Adam had been having a nightmare the night she woke Dan, and she had wanted me to go to him.
Nancy also clarified that it had not been her at the top of the stairs when my neighbor’s child saw an old woman. Nancy explained that while she is the only consistent entity here, sometimes “others come and go”.
Fantastic.
After talking extensively with Tina about the things she sensed from Nancy, it was finally time for the night to draw to a close. Tina walked up the block to her house, and I was jittery all night. Since then I haven’t really seen or heard anything else, although there have been episodes where I’ve smelled a super sweet smell of candy and vanilla in the dining room when I’m writing.
I’ve put a little pink VW bug in the play room, which has since gone missing. I don’t know if the children moved it, or if Nancy did. The dog is sometimes hesitant to enter the playroom, and sometimes needs coaxing to go out through there to get to the yard.
I’m not sure what I believe about all this. I can tell you that I do believe something is happening here in this house. I have a pretty strong sense that whatever it is, it’s not malevolent. What it is, exactly, I cannot say.
During the last snow storm I sent an email to Tina, asking if she thought perhaps Nancy might like to help shovel. Apparently, the answer was no. Oh well. Can’t blame a girl for trying.
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March 12, 2010 at 7:18 pm
“Moooooommmy!” lol. So no plates flying? No blood from walls? Not even driving up and catching a glimpse of an eerie glow in a window?
Not yet…..
Twitter: collaboracion
March 13, 2010 at 8:47 am
shouldn’t that child cross over? I think you should talk to her and tell her about it, so she can at least starts getting used to the idea.
I’m a little afraid to piss her off. She’s a little impetuous. For example, she didn’t say her name was Nancy. She said “I like the name Nancy”. When we tried to narrow down who’s family she came from Tina’s chain swung around madly, indicating this was a subject we could not discuss. I wondered about that too,Sandy, but Nancy says she isn’t “finished” here.
I have always been fascinated with the idea of ghosts and that occasional sighting of “Bigfoot”. In relating a personal experience of mine one time as a child and the judgment I have received. Well, I don’t often bring it up anymore. I think people thought I was either lying or just plain nuts!
Currently, I work with a number of officer’s that investigate (on their own time) paranormal activity. You can google them under Lake Erie Paranormal. They are rather new, but are picking up steam in terms of their investigations. Anyway, they invited me this year to join them at the Mansfield Correctional Facility. It’s closed and really creepy. It has a long history of violence, murder, and suicide while it was in use. That’s where a number of prime time ghost hunting shows have investigated haunting’s, but it is most famous for being the movie set for The Shawshank Redemption. Unfortunately, I realized yesterday (after paying a month ago) that I will not be able to attend. Bummer! I am going to Wicked instead! LOL
Just from what I have read and watched pertaining to a haunting; there has to be some reason that this entity is in your home. It is hard for me to believe they just decided to stop by or follow you. Unless, there is some attachment or item that you own that is like a magnet for this to happen. I would research the history of the home, or any item you own that its considered “old”. Like an antique. The guys I know have told me that the temp in a room will cool when there is something lurking about. I would be interested in knowing if you felt this or saw lights or electronics flutter.
I have been very skeptical of the whole ghost idea for a long time. Until my Mom asked me to attend a show put on by Lisa Williams (psychic) who claims to speak to those who have passed on. The theater was packed with various people who were grieving, and honestly; I thought it was all a set up. Until Lisa picked out a woman in the audience that we all knew. Ms. Williams was way too specific about particular details that left us wondering “WTF”. Even her claims of what the late husband was saying at that moment.
So I think its all possible (at least I want to believe that). I have always been a firm believer in dreams and the dead communicating that way. I have my own reasons for that though. So maybe, I am cuckoo too!
Bobby, according to the entity, she belongs to someone else on our block, but didn’t want to “discuss” it. She got very upset when I named some names (we knew this because the chain which my neighbor held began to swing in circles wildly, and she was NOT moving her hand). When we asked why she chose us, she said that this family and this house has everything she didn’t have. She said she wanted a mommy. She liked our fish. She wishes she had the toys my son has, although she prefers girl toys. She insisted that she was no relation of mine, and I have no young child in my family that died. It’s quite odd.
Twitter: collaboracion
March 13, 2010 at 5:39 pm
Hey Girl,
Did she do the chain over the palm? Like if it goes in circles its a yes, or if it goes in a line its a no?
If i were you, I would get some salt, holy water, and incense. And you know what, bless your house. There is no need to live with a ghost, unless you want to. Seriously.
My mom LOVED investigating the paranormal, and had us help her. A REALLY BAD IDEA, but I did learn that a lot of ghosts lie. If this spirit has attitude problem, I would not engage it at all. Also, this is a tool/prayer that I WISH my mom had taught me as a kid, so I wouldn’t be so afraid. It might help your son.
Imagine a white circle around you, and keep on repeating:
The Light of God surrounds me; The Love of God enfolds me; The Power of God protects me
Sending you tons of prayers and good vibes.
Well, I’m not really scared of this ghost. And the chain wasn’t to communicate with us as much as it was to pick up energy. So it swung around when the ghost was saying she was uncomfortable, like in the dining room.
I’m not catholic, so I don’t think I’d be blessing the house, since that’s not my way. Plus, there’s really nothing “unholy” to me about this presence. She doesn’t do scary things, and the only thing she has done so far is wake us when she thinks my son needs help. So….in a way….I see her has a benevolent presence.
Do you think you can catch it all on video camera, like in Paranormal? I know, I’m always a skeptic, even with people I should trust when it comes to ghost stories. I hear a lot about them, but have never experienced it myself.
oddly, I have to make a suggestion. The guys at work suggested that you get a digital voice recorder and then randomly go to the places within your home and record yourself talking to “nancy”. Play it back and try several times; to see if you can catch something on the recorder. I have heard their “evidence” and it is kind of spooky!
That’s a GREAT idea! I’ll have to pick up a recorder and then let you know. I’ll also have to do it when no one’s home or else they’ll all think I’m crazy! hee hee.
Strange post – ghosts?! No such thing.
Thanks and take care
Hello, your not alone. I’ve been living in a haunted home since 1966. With sighting’s of a large white male walking throught the house. In 2007 the haunting changed for the worst. At bedtime something invisible would come into my room, get on the bed, and shake it for about 30 seconds. This went on for about 3 months. I’d tried not to pay any attension to it. One night it came in, and smacked my ankles, the next night it pushed down on my thighs.
I sat up in bed, and could see handprints on the sheet, pushing down on my thighs. So I set up a camera, VCR and started recording
myself sleeping everynight. I recorded for 2 weeks, the activity
stopped. So I put the equipment away, and turned off the lights.
This was in July 2007.
Everthing was good until April 2009, then it started again. Jump on the bed, shake the bed. So I started taping again. This time it wasn’t affraid of the camera, however it changed it’s tactics. It would shake the bed, but not enough for the camera to see it. I did gets lots of sounds, voices, knocking on the furniture, and a rubbing on the camera mic. I would write down times, so I could view that part of the tape the next day. My cat sleeps with me everynight, as I would fast forward, through the tape, I would look for any movement by her, if there was I would play that part back. Once during a thunderstorm, I caught a black shadow on tape moving left to right. I believe it might be scared of thunderstorms. I’ve learn’t a lot about ghost’s. I spoke to one Paranormal investigator, on the internet. He told me to try, and live with it, as they’re only sucessful 1 out of 5 in removing them. He said, the hauntings where much worst, after the failed attemps. I tried getting rid of it on my own, but failed. The haunting was much worst, for a few months then it got back to the norm. It has slowed down, bed shakes about once a week now.
I would not recomend, that any one bring in a Paranormal investigator. Even just to document, your case. When they leave,
your still stuck in the house.
A few things I learn’t, Ghost are effected by altra violet light,
Thunderstorms, and can be traped, as I found out by accident. How I found out, I would be happy to share with you. Last my ghost is a prankster type, movement of items, only to be found later. Lots of sounds, bright orbs of light floating through the house.
Well thanks for listening, I hope.
Mike Williams