One week after the shocking suicide of rising star Lucy Gordon, the British actress’s death remains a mystery to the public. Here is what is known:
- Lucy’s boyfriend, Jerome Almeras, a cameraman in his 40′s who found the starlet hanging from their ceiling when he woke up, has been cleared of any suspicion. Initial reports were that the couple had been arguing.
- Gordon was in love with Almeras. “She told me she was in love with her boyfriend,” said Michel Haddi, who photographed her for the Italian issue of Vanity Fair. “I told her she must like older men. She looked like a girl with a plan. She had everything to go for. I was going to visit her and her boyfriend in Paris.”
- She left two suicide notes. One note was for her family; the other detailed how her remains and estate should be disposed of.
- Elizabeth Simpson, Gordon’s agent, is also in the dark about the death. “My team and I are baffled and devastated by this wholly unexpected tragedy and our sympathy goes out to her family…”
- A close, unnamed friend of hers had recently committed suicide, and Gordon was deeply affected by the loss.
- Richard Gordon, Lucy’s father, also said the suicide “came out of the blue” and has not indicated whether the suicide note he received shed any light on her motives.
The public is left wondering why she would end such a promising, young life.
The most commonly-held belief is that she killed herself because she was distraught over her friend’s suicide. This is such a let-down, if that’s the case. Contemplating suicide is common, but as Gordon learned, it is selfish because of the devastation left behind to the ones who loved you. For Gordon to experience that pain, and then not see or care that her actions would inflict an even worse pain upon her family and loved ones, would be a disappointment. The man she loved found her hanging in the bedroom when he woke in the morning. That is severe.
Hopefully a better answer will be forthcoming.
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Whatever it was that led this beautiful young girl to commit suicide, went with her to the grave. Her friends, family and fans will never know the despair that led to the most “permanent” act that she committed. I just pray that they find a peaceful place of acceptance for their own sanity. Her suicide does not define who she was and I hope she is not being remembered only for this.
Jerome Aldermas has a LOT to answer for. What mind games were you playing on that poor girl….
People do things for reasons that even those close to them don’t understand. IMO, blame should not be laid on the survivors.
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I agree with Eleanor. The real victims are the survivors – they are the ones left contending with and trying to make sense of their loss.
I agree with monica lapeter. My feelings are with her family and I hope Lucy to be remembered for her good acts and not being blamed by anyone since noone has that right, in my humble opinion.
There is an old cliche that goes, “the straw that broke the camel’s back”, well I believe that somehow Lucy experienced that *straw* and that just threw her over the edge. I know this in my heart because just this week I experienced my own *straw* and I pray for the courage that Lucy showed when she said, “no more”. One person can only take so much and Lucy hit her limit.
I have a favorite saying, “he aint heavy, he’s my brother”, how many of us really practice this simple yet profound way of being a friend?? Not many!!! I will keep Lucy in my heart forever, I only wish I knew her and maybe could have helped her.
Goodbye David.
I think that’s what Dave and I were and are saying, Alex. I’m glad you see it the same way we do.
Judge ourselves so we won’t be judge. My prayers go to Lucy Gordon’s
Family and friends. She had been accomplished alot and she had a lot more to offer to us, but who knows exactly how she died? I hope we have more informations about her death and hope to find why and who cause it.
May Jesus be with her family.
Always,
Bobby Saint Louis
“Contemplating suicide is common, but as Gordon learned, it is selfish because of the devastation left behind to the ones who loved you. For Gordon to experience that pain, and then not see or care that her actions would inflict an even worse pain upon her family and loved ones, would be a disappointment”
So here you are condemning this poor young lady, who was in such immense pain as to take her life.
So her pain is not enough?
She must suffer condemnation as well?
WE are the people being selfish when we condemn a suicide.
Twitter: davidshankbone
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Suicide is almost universally condemned in every major religion. It’s a selfish act, a waste and a tragedy. It creates a lot of suffering, and even destroys others’ lives (as Gordon knew). Seek help. But suicide should also be condemned. Gordon was victimized by it, and now she has victimized friends and family, particularly the way her boyfriend found her. Now all of these people have to recover and deal.
I’m not sure it matters or is any of our business what drove her to it. At that time she decided it was the solution and succeeded. It is a horrifying story – the thought of going through all the preparation of writing notes, tying knots etc in the middle of the night, alone and I assume in despair. My thoughts are with the family and friends – I suppose they must think of the 28 years of joy. RIP
David, I don’t think you are being fair on this lady, and you seem to have empathised with everyone involved in the suicide EXCEPT Lucy herself.
I do not espouse suicide, but it is cruelty for us to condemn those who commit it. At the point of suicide the person must see no hope; no way out. They are trapped. They are so consumed by their own affliction and sorrow, how can we expect them to possibly think of others?
And as you stated, Lucy’s friends and family can recover.
Lucy, sadly, can now never recover.
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Death is ultimately about the living.
If death means the eternal cessasion of an individual consciousness, yes, I agree. But we do not know that.
If death is indeed only concerned with the living, all the more reason to not condemn the suicide or anyone who has died.
Surely such condemnation can only hurt ourselves then?
Whatever the case, I hope this lovely young girl is now at peace…or in (contradictory) non-existence…and her family remembers all the great times they had….